About 10 days ago I wrote a post about a really good first date I had. Since then I have been on date number 2 and 3 with her and, what can I say… I like her. (Gonna nickname her Elle).
Date number 2 took place 1 week after the first date. I used the things I’d learned about her from the first date to suggest something I knew she’d be into for the second date. We went to see some live music. We grabbed some food first, then went to the gig. I paid for the tickets so she insisted on paying for dinner, which I thought was fair enough – it was just a burger and chips so hardly bank breaking.
It was a laid-back, chilled out, mildly swanky music venue on a beautiful, balmy, summery London evening. Perfect. We drank expensive cocktails, chatted, laughed, enjoyed the music and stayed out pretty late – almost until midnight.
Once again, it was good fun. I was very comfortable around her and it seemed as though the feeling was mutual. We said our goodbyes at the tube station and my suggestion of doing something at the weekend was greeted positively.
Date number 3 was arranged rather spontaneously on Saturday. We went to play crazy golf! Personally, I think this is a great idea for a fun date. Fortunately, so did she.
Afterwards, we went back to her place for a bit, went for dinner, went for a drink and then called it a night. To be honest, this whole thing is quite weird for me. It’s been so long since I liked someone who, for some reason, seems to like me too.
We talked a lot of the night about various random things; silly and serious. Spent some time replying to friends and family who were checking to make sure we were okay following the horrific incidents in London on Saturday night. We were in central London that day but thankfully we were safe.
So I don’t know if this will head anywhere. I don’t even really know how interested she is or what she’s thinking. But I guess it doesn’t really matter at this early stage. Just have fun should, and will, be the ethos.
She did oh so casually ask me if I had been on any dates since we’d first gone out. To which I said no, which is true. I haven’t even looked at the site in all honesty. I didn’t ask, but she said she hadn’t been on any either.
Funnily enough, whilst we were out on Saturday, I did receive a text from someone from the online dating world who I’d been trying to arrange a first date with since before I met Elle. It’s now Monday night and I still haven’t replied. I don’t know what to do about it. Should I go on the first date? My problem is that I am loyal to a fault and I just don’t know if I’d feel comfortable going on a first date with someone else. If I was more ‘meh’ about Elle then I’d probably be more open to going out with this other girl.
On the one hand, first dates are a massive pain in the arse and I don’t want to put myself through one unnecessarily. On the other hand, I think I should go on a date with this other girl because, let’s face it, 3 dates is nothing, this thing with Elle could be finished at any moment, and maybe I’m missing out on meeting someone really great.
What would you do?
When we were chilling at Elle’s place, her phone buzzed a couple of times and she’d be quite open about how it was a notification from the dating website to say she’d received a message from someone new. She said it in kind of a jokey way and I don’t know if this is odd or not but it didn’t really bother me. I just made a joke asking if I could reply to it and thought no more of it. So, you know, this whole thing is quite relaxed.
Anyway, I guess it’s been a relatively interesting 10 days since my last post.
I’ve not yet been on a 4th date with anyone from the online dating world so I’m on the cusp of an historic moment here people. So here I go, stepping into the unknown and – trust me when I say – not knowing what I’m doing.